230—Community Leadership and Service Learning
Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the
Margaret Wheately (Berrett-Koehler, 2009)
The Process of Conversation
- When a
community of people discovers that they share a concern, change begins (p.
- We don’t
have to start with power, only with passion (p. 29)
attend a conference or meeting for our own purposes, for “what I can
get out of this.” Conversation
is different. (p. 32)
for conversation (p 33 ff.):
one another as equals
curious about each other
need each other’s help to become better listeners
down to have time to think and reflect
is the natural way humans think together
it to be messy at times
cultivated a lot of bad behaviors when we’re together—speaking
too fast, interrupting others, monopolizing the time, giving speeches or
pronouncements. (p. 36)
settle into conversation, we don’t just do it. As we risk talking to each other about
something we care about, as we become curious about each other, as we slow
things down, gradually we remember this timeless way of being together.
do need to be curious about what someone else believes. We do need to acknowledge that their way
of interpreting the world might be essential to our survival. (p. 39)
Twelve conversation starters
- Do I
feel a vocation to be fully human?
is my faith in the future?
do I believe about others?
am I willing to notice in my world?
have I experienced good listening?
- Am I
willing to reclaim time to think?
is the relationship I want with the earth?
is my unique contribution to the whole?
have I experienced working for the common good?
do I experience the sacred?
is our role in creating change?
- Can I
© 2002 A.J.Filipovitch
Revised 28 May 2010